Child Coaching is Personal Development
Behavior based Coaching for
a child's personal
development, success and self-improvement..
Children living in today’s Alienating,
Challenging, Dangerous world --and Need for
trained specialist Child Coaches in the use of the latest
evidence-based, Behavioral Change Models and Tools.
based coaching for children,
whether it is to enhance personal performance or achieve greater
satisfaction in one's personal life, involves personal development
and growth. Such development typically occurs within the context of
self-knowledge and self-awareness.
development and coaching children
Clearly, coaching belongs in the
contemporary landscape of personal development methodologies.
Its aim is for the individual to become more self-aware, to
assume more responsibility for his or her life design and to
grow and develop as an individual.
Never before has empirical data given us a
clearer window into the mind of a child. So… now what?
To-date, human brains have been forged by the process of natural
selection and other uncharted processes that are still being
explored. But how is our generation’s pace of change and
unprecedented demands on an “ancient” neurological
infrastructure? How does a child's brain react to the quantum overload
of life in the 21st Century? Not very well unfortunately!
The modern world is in the grip of a crisis of
self-identification and meaning. More children are anxious,
confused, depressed, alienated, lost, than any other
time in our history.
Today’s profound cultural, social changes and political
polarization continue to provoke widespread malaise and
ultimately prompt a reconstructed view of what it means to be
Meanwhile, suicide, depression, and anxiety are on the rise
both in adults and children in the modern world we now live in. We’re facing a new, contemporary
“crisis of meaningless.”
We seek meaning, but increased social alienation, smaller
families, and a declining belief in religion make it extremely
difficult for many of us.
In order to keep existential anxiety at bay, children need
direction how to find and
build a meaningful life. Humans are a species that strives not
just for survival, but also for significance. We want and need
our lives to matter. It is when children are not able to maintain
meaning in the world ,as they are see it, that they are most psychologically vulnerable.
Today, behavior based child coaching
answers some of the questions that remain unasked or
unanswered by the traditional, outdated coaching models and the
myriad number of pseudo-scientific and amateur child development programs
that are still widely used.
A Child's Personal
Development and Behavior
Longitudinal research on
development through the life span suggests that our behavior is
both stable and subject to change. As child coaches, we need to
recognize that the child's behaviors that can be modified through
coaching and those that are immutable. Fortunately, there is is
now a growing body of behavioral research into models of child
behavioral change that are both evidence-based and prove highly
child coaching presents research-based and
scientifically validated means of instilling new optimism about
achievable personal change.
The following nine areas of
a child's personal development are integral to the behavior based coaching
- self-esteem and self-efficacy
- self-regulation of emotions
- a sense of control
- the authentic self and its
relation to meaning, purpose and values
Approach to self-growth.
The challenge of living in a modern, ever complex and challenging
society is to re-establish ownership of our body, its connection
with the mind and brain — of our self. It is critically important
for a child to feel free to know what they
know and to feel what they feel without becoming alienated, lost,
unvalued, overwhelmed, enraged, ashamed, or collapsed. This involves
learning how to become calm and focused, learning control over one’s
emotions, engaging the right mindset and be fully alive and engaged
in the present.
In an important sense, a child's psychological well-being can be seen as
the ‘end point’ of their journey of self-discovery of where and who
they are. Age-appropriate, guided
perceptual, self-awareness can provide important openings where a
can identify, embrace, and integrate theirr Healthier Future Self to
produce a better, brigther life with purpose and meaning.
The Behavioral Coaching Institute's Child Behavior Coach
trusting relationship with a qualified, specialist "caretaker" or
"advocate" can fast-track a child's self-development. The first task of the
Child Behavior Coach is to help children build a secure, trusting base to work together from. Essential to this attunement between the coach and child is subtle interactions in
which the coach as caretaker makes them feel attended to and understood.
The child's secure attachment with their Behavior Coach combined with
the cultivation of competency builds an internal locus of control,
the key factor in healthy coping throughout life.
All children need confidence that others will know, affirm, and
cherish them. Without that adolescents especially can’t develop a sense of agency that
will enable them to assert: “This is who I am and what I believe in; this is what I
stand for; this is what I will devote myself to.”
Once children have
established their "Selves" those who love them can better identify, reach out and
embrace them. When a child feels their primary Self is safely held in the hearts and
minds of those they love they can climb mountains and cross deserts and
stay up all night to finish projects. Children will do
anything for people they trust and whose opinion they value. But, if
they feel abandoned, worthless, or invisible, nothing seems to matter.
Fear destroys self-development, curiosity and playfulness.
Creating a healthy environment for children
As Child Behavior Coaches we need to first create
secure spaces for a child to safely learn and develop themselves in.
To help all young people (from age 6 to 24) establish who they are, what
matters to them. To help them find meaning, purpose and a direction
in their life. The outside, modern world offers little space or
facility for self-exploration and growth.
Behavior based coaching is the
key to sustainable personal
development in children.
The Behavior based coaching
approach to achieving personal change is based on the
behavioral and neuroscience sciences, which seek to explain why
individuals behave the
way they do. It presents replicable, reliable and validated
methodologies for managing behavior and effecting lasting personal
and neurological change.
key to success in any personal development change initiative with
children is the selection of the
appropriate Behavioral based change model to fit the
child's specific needs.
The Behavioral Coaching
(Graduate School of
Applied Behavioral Science)
Master Coach Course
top-rated coach training course -ICAA
the critical needs for child development professionals to be trained in the
a range of validated,
reliable personal change
models, tools and techniques.
See: -Behavioral Coaching
Child Master Coach course
(international Self-Study Format available).
Behavioral Coaching Institute