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EMOTIONS, FEAR and COACHING

Some Background Notes:

Life is really a school teaching us to feel emotion. At both ends of the emotional spectrum from misery to bliss, we are capable of feeling it all.

Fear of confronting and feeling maladaptive emotions that afflict us all tells us -no, you mustn’t feel that. So, that same fear continues to get triggered over and over again.

Experiencing sadness, anger, hurt and other “negative” feelings can be hard. In fact, many of us just don’t do it.

Because we’re afraid.

FEARFUL OF CONFRONTING OUR EMOTIONS

As small children, we are open and free, sharing all of ourselves with others. As we grow and mature, however, we learn that the world can be a very painful place. We learn that not everyone is on our side, and not all situations are going to go our way. Over time, then, we also learn to protect ourselves. We build walls around our true feelings and heart and we become practiced in the art of denial. Even worse, we begin to believe and internalize negative thoughts and feelings about ourselves.

We all are manipulated with the hurt and opinions to show emotions. Very few of us react the way we are.

Most of us are raised in environments where keeping a lid on feelings and emotions is the norm. This means that expressing emotions—negative or positive—is considered undesirable, especially in the workplace.

Many of us have been suppressing our emotions for so long that we’ve forgotten how to express feelings. Holding in emotions leads to bitterness which is a passive expression of built-up emotional energy.

Our brains are hardwired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. As such, we suppress jealousy, envy, shame, embarrassment, guilt, and anxiety, berating ourselves for feeling that way. We associate these feelings with weakness, suffering in silence and isolation.

Constructively confronting our negative emotions, without abandoning our emotional selves, can help us achieve crucial life goals and put us on a happier, healthier path. They are signals that something is wrong, urging us to make the sort of changes that save us from self-destructive behaviors.

Fear is also associated with such emotions as acute stress reaction, anger, rejection, self-criticism, angst, anxiety, fright, joy, panic, and sadness. Fear is closely related to, but should be distinguished from, the emotion anxiety.

Emotions are fluid and ever-changing as our evaluation of everyday occurrences change over time.

The effects of holding in or suppressing emotions go beyond our mental health.
Feeling our feelings is vital. It’s vital to our health and well-being. Because whatever it is we don’t want to feel will eventually find a way to be known. It’ll find a way to be known through negatively affecting our behavior, performance levels and our body through tension, headaches or insomnia, or through anxiety or depression. It even becomes an accelerant for the aging process.

Health risks are elevated when people don’t have a way of expressing their feelings or acting upon them. A study by the University of Rochester found that holding in emotions can also increase risks of heart attack and certain types of cancer.

By not feeling a feeling, we simply give it power to hurt us in the future. However, when we acknowledge and validate our feelings, we empower ourselves.

The longer you hide from emotions, the longer you suffer. The more it controls your actions. The more poor decisions you make. It'll beat you down until you begin the process of starting to feel it.

Now, imagine what it would be like to be able to feel the entire spectrum of human emotion without any fear at all. How empowering would that be?

The need to identify, confront and regulate emotions.
Identifying the primary, maladaptive emotions provide us a pathway to exchange them with more adaptive suitable emotions.

Unless we identify the Fear at work it will rob us of the opportunity to discover powerful, adaptive, primary emotions that can free us and produce a wide range of positive results.

Corrective emotional experiences
A client can freely express and learn to regulate emotions and fear with a trained neuro-behavioral coach without feeling censored or punished. This experience alone provides an incredibly empowering conduit towards emotional liberation.

Learning to play the game to get atop of the game
Earth is literally the school of fear. Beat the game of fear, and you'll stop being played by the game and start being the one successfully playing ‘the game of life’.

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